Honesty Before Anything Else When Meeting Someone New
I met this guy a few months ago, and we clicked right away. He is very handsome, charming, intelligent...The list could go on and on. So naturally I kept wondering if he had a girlfriend of some sort. But never showed any signs of it, and when I finally had the courage to ask him, I finally got the relief I was hoping for. He was single. From this point on, we would spend every waking moment either speaking on the phone or hanging out together.
One night, we kind of got into an argument, nothing serious, but enough for my ego to say: No more. So I stopped all communications with him. I know, it was quite childish, but I'm still learning from my mistakes. Not surprisingly at all, he kept trying to go back to how we were before. So I decided to give him a second chance, and accompany him to a friends party as his "Date" which for me was a big deal. Needless no say, it was a magical night, and I was so glad I had given him another chance.
A couple days later, he asked me if we could meet again, and foolishly of me, I thought he just missed me, so we met at a cafe near my home. We were there a couple hours, acting like two loving birds who are all over each other. That was of course until he revealed he was "kinda seeing someone else, but liked both of us and it was complicated with her". I went from "soon to be something else" to "the other women" in a matter of seconds. Let me make him arguments clear. They are bullshit. And I confronted him directly about lying to my face.
As any good lawyer, he tried to rescue the situation by saying I had only asked about "girlfriends" not friends-whom-he-fucks. Astonishing.
I'll just say, first of all, don't ever ignore red flags or what your instinct is trying to tell you. And secondly, always be honest with your intentions, as who knows, you both might only want to have a nice time, but at least you're both on the same page.
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